Last year was a 9 year, a year for completion and learning the lessons we needed to learn so we could enter 2017, our 1 year without carrying all the residue forward with us or repeat past behaviours and mistakes that don’t serve our highest self. And if we haven’t learnt, the universe will make sure we do!
This year is also an exciting time for change, new beginnings, new creations, new possibilities and for starting over. Many people have packed up, moved on or are beginning a new chapter altogether. But if we are to grow, It’s important to make sure certain habits don’t hold us back from expanding and reaching new heights. Change is uncomfortable but it is in this discomfort that growth takes place.
I don’t know if you’ve noticed but for many of us, a lot has moved very quickly, things that we have been working towards have already begun to manifest and it can feel quite overwhelming, in a good way but can also leave us feeling drained. If there were loose ends to tie up from last year, it might have left you feeling like you were moving through sticky mud. I know this is how I felt. Now, as February approaches, a lot has settled down and we can finally let out a big sigh of relief that the best is still yet to come.
It’s also a great time to do a self-check, get accountability from a friend and watch your energy levels so that you remain grounded and strong as you build on the foundations that will carry you forward this year. My friend Kirsty from The Mystic Wanderer has great resources to help us understand the astrological changes and energy shifts that take place that may affect our life and business. Kirsty has personally helped guide me through some turbulent transitions while processing through some pretty hectic shifts and changes within which occurs naturally as you grow out of your old skin and shed the layers that may be holding you back. And for me, it all happened at once but I still did my best to show up.
There are always infinite possibilities and opportunities for us and we always have the choice to change direction. At any moment. But are these 6 things still holding you back?
This is a biggie. We have to remember, things happen in perfect timing. It may not seem like it but we have to trust it is. It’s because of the lack of patience we have that prevents us from being in the moment, enjoying the process and actually achieving the goals we want to achieve because we’re too quick to give up just because something hasn’t happened at the time we decide it “should of” happened. Sometimes we have to just let go of the outcome and enjoy the ride because it is in these moments when the magic happens. I recently wrote about how learning to be inlove with my time has made all the difference and shifted my focus to appreciate the journey more.
SELF – AWARENESS
This is a pretty big one too. This is not an excuse to be self-conscious but rather, self-aware. Being self-aware allows us to look at our behaviour patterns, habits and how we present to the world that may be hindering us from moving forward or achieving our goals. Being self-aware could also be the difference between not achieving the outcome you desire and actually achieving it with much more ease and grace. Could there be another way to handle or deal with a tricky situation? Is there an alternative solution? Is there another way we can approach a certain scenario to get the outcome we want. This can be a difficult practice and by nature, it may challenge our current beliefs or perceptions and force us to change.
It’s only natural to get jealous from time to time but when it is unhealthy or we let it go too far to the point we actually resent our friends it can become toxic and actually destroy healthy relationships. And the worst part, those who are highly intuitive can pick it up. It can lead to feelings of hostility, hatred and resentment towards others but all it does is hinder our own growth, feelings of happiness and success because we become too outwardly focused on what others are doing, we lose sight of our own unique beauty and talents. And it has the potential to sabotage good friendships, create distance, distrust and feelings of abandonment from those we love without meaning too. However, when we stop comparing and in a state of true contentment and learn to love who we truly are while being at peace with all our imperfections, we are less likely to be hindered by jealousy. And thus are no longer held back.
When we learn to say NO (with grace) to certain things and situations that don’t serve us or add value to our lives, we have the opportunity to protect ourselves and teach others how to value us or treat us the way we deserve. I don’t mean like a scene from a Jackie Chan movie where we get our warrior sword out & get all ‘kung fu’ on someone. This can be difficult for those of us (me included) who just want to do the right thing by everyone. Sometimes when you say NO to someone it can feel like you are being the mean one. Or at least that’s how you can be made to feel. Some people won’t like it because they were comfortable with you always being the ‘yes’ person. But sometimes It’s just necessary to preserve your energy and say NO. And I always like to remind myself, those who matter won’t mind and those who mind, don’t matter.
Where our mind goes, energy flows. Where is your mind right now? Is it important right now in this moment? Could it be left for a later time? This is such a HUGE one and something I have struggled with too. When there is so much to do, time can get away with you and then all of a sudden you’re left thinking where the hell did all my time go? We naturally put so much pressure on ourselves to get all this stuff done in one day and we only end up exhausting ourselves. I am no organisational expert so you will have to find your own way that makes you feel focused and productive. But what works for me is scheduling out my day the night before or first thing in the morning and prioritising tasks, what has to be done today and what can be left for tomorrow or next week. And the question you need to always ask yourself, is the task taking me one step closer to my goals?
Earlier in the year, I caught myself questioning my self-worth and I just couldn’t shake this low vibe feeling. Maybe it was all the loose ends from last year I was still trying to sort out like a pending tribunal case with my current real estate agent (our case against them), a big payment I was waiting on receiving or the reality that whom I thought was a good friend didn’t really care at all and the weight of this and trying to process through the heaviness just killed my vibe. Looking back, I can see so easily a belief state can rapidly spiral out of control and go from reality to fantasy very easily if we don’t manage it. Don’t get me wrong, belief states are very real but it can also impact us in a very real way. And usually what we believe about ourselves manifests outwardly and creates the reality in which we live. Without getting too deep or carried away, a belief state can be the difference between achieving our goals or staying stuck and if you are aware that these beliefs could be a result of past conditioning and may not be true then you have the power to change it.
Certain situations and events will cause us to change, whether it is a current limiting belief, a new perspective or a completely new space or environment in which we find ourselves. Being hit with the truth that something needs to change can be even harder. Wherever you are, know that change can be positive and is usually always essential for our own growth and development.
“Truth and courage are not always comfortable but they are never weakness” – Brene Brown
Please share with me in the comments if there was anything holding you back and what has helped you with your breakthrough?